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Beyond Same-Sex Marriage: A New Strategic Vision For All Our Families and Relationships
Executive Summary (click here to read the full statement)
The time has come to reframe the narrow terms of the marriage debate in the United States. Conservatives are seeking to enshrine discrimination in the U.S. Constitution through the Federal Marriage Amendment. But their opposition to same-sex marriage is only one part of a broader pro-marriage, “family values” agenda that includes abstinence-only sex education, stringent divorce laws, coercive marriage promotion policies directed toward women on welfare, and attacks on reproductive freedom. Moreover, a thirty-year political assault on the social safety net has left households with more burdens and constraints and fewer resources.
Meanwhile, the LGBT movement has recently focused on marriage equality as a stand-alone issue. While this strategy may secure rights and benefits for some LGBT families, it has left us isolated and vulnerable to a virulent backlash. We must respond to the full scope of the conservative marriage agenda by building alliances across issues and constituencies. Our strategies must be visionary, creative, and practical to counter the right’s powerful and effective use of marriage as a “wedge” issue that pits one group against another. The struggle for marriage rights should be part of a larger effort to strengthen the stability and security of diverse households and families. To that end, we advocate:
Ø Legal recognition for a wide range of relationships, households and families – regardless of kinship or conjugal status.
Ø Access for all, regardless of marital or citizenship status, to vital government support programs including but not limited to health care, housing, Social Security and pension plans, disaster recovery assistance, unemployment insurance and welfare assistance. (First of all, when is this not the case already? A few pen strokes in front of a lawyer and notary can create legal relationships WRT health care and financial matters. Notice that these people want all government programs extended to all regardless of citizenship – so you and I bear the financial burden for supporting the world. Think redistribution of wealth – Think communism!)
Ø Separation of church and state in all matters, including regulation and recognition of relationships, households and families. (i.e. churches would no longer marry people – marriage would be defined strictly by the new anything goes government policy. This is a strike at the heart of most religions.)
Ø Freedom from state regulation of our sexual lives and gender choices, identities and expression.(Keep in mind that they already won freedom – remember the sodomy laws case? They want legitimization and acceptance not “freedom”.)
Marriage is not the only worthy form of family or relationship, and it should not be legally and economically privileged above all others. A majority of people – whatever their sexual and gender identities – do not live in traditional nuclear families. They stand to gain from alternative forms of household recognition beyond one-size-fits-all marriage. For example: (This is a blatant attempt at confusing the real issue – there are plenty of legal exceptions made for most of these groups.)
· Single parent households
· Senior citizens living together and serving as each other’s caregivers (think Golden Girls) (Wills, Living Wills, and Powers of Attorney would cover most of the needs in a case like this.)
· Blended and extended families (Hello, McFly! A blended family is a marriage.)
· Children being raised in multiple households (huh???) or by unmarried parents (Biology is the law! Ever tried to take a child out of an abusive family? Parent relationships aren’t established by “marriage”. Again this is an attempt to confuse the issues and blur the cause – they don’t want you to know that all they want is the complete and utter acceptance and dominance of homosexuality and sexually deviant lifestyles.)
· Adult children living with and caring for their parents (A few pen strokes…)
· Senior citizens who are the primary caregivers to their grandchildren or other relatives (see last comment…)
· Close friends or siblings living in non-conjugal relationships and serving as each other’s primary support and caregivers (They want college roommates to be “married” under the law? How do you divide the mutual property upon graduation? A divorce?)
· Households in which there is more than one conjugal partner (Read this closely: POLYGAMY! The next step will be pedophilia because all marriage definitions will be considered arbitrary and all sexual limitations will also be considered a gray area.)
· Care-giving relationships that provide support to those living with extended illness such as HIV/AIDS. (Again, a few pen strokes…)
The current debate over marriage, same-sex and otherwise, ignores the needs and desires of so many in a nation where household diversity is the demographic norm. (Dishonesty seems to be the norm do we legitimize it? You know, mistreatment of trees is the norm – we actually cut them down to build houses and buildings – even such trivialities as paper! Gasp! Perhaps we should all move into caves… Right and wrong isn’t defined by popular vote. If we want the deviant to define the norm, we’ll review the Kinsey report.) We seek to reframe this debate. Our call speaks to the widespread hunger for authentic and just community in ways that are both pragmatic and visionary. It follows in the best tradition of the progressive LGBT movement, which invented alternative legal statuses such as domestic partnership and reciprocal beneficiary. We seek to build on these historic accomplishments by continuing to diversify and democratize partnership and household recognition. We advocate the expansion of existing legal statuses, social services and benefits to support the needs of all our households.
We call on colleagues working in various social justice movements and campaigns to read the full-text of our statement “Beyond Same-Sex Marriage: A New Strategic Vision,” and to join us in our call for government support of all our households.
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